Bride Blah: The Wedding DIY Project Experience

My husband and I always find things that we can do together or we both can share because that makes us understand each other more and know each other on a much personal level.  Up to this day, we still try to discover a lot of things about each other.  

The five day Eid vacation during the last week of October has been such a great time for us to reconnect and bond because during work days, we barely even see each other.  We took advantage of those five days to do all our wedding DIY projects.  It has been a great experience for us - shopping for the items and having petty fights about which to pick and which to ditch, arguing and compromising about the designs, helping each other be inspired to make the projects look nice, appreciating each others efforts and discovering/learning something new through the course of doing all of it.

Speaking of discoveries and learnings,  my husband and I had a lot!  I am excited to share all of these things to you:

• I always say that I am a wedding enthusiast but I have to admit that if not for my wedding preparations, I would have never known that a unity candle ever existed. (shame!)  (I was on Bridalbook one day when I saw this supplier for personalized ring and arrhae pillows, garters, cords, entourage candles and unity candles and I was like, "What on earth is a unity candle????")  Here is what I have found out:  aside from the two candles that the secondary sponsors light, a unity candle is also often used during wedding rites.  This represents the the union of two individuals, becoming one in commitment . Symbolic as it is, the lighting of unity candle is not actually a part of the matrimonial rites on some parishes in the Philippines (thank God, UST Church includes this in their ceremony).
• He asked me one time about the escort cards and how are we going to use it.  Knowing my husband, I actually expected that he'd eventually ask me this kind of question.  To give him the idea, I showed him the websites where I get inspiration for our wedding and he was totally amazed!  What surprised me were his creative inputs after seeing the websites.  That was such an "oh-i'm-a-lucky-wife-to-have-a-cooperative-and-creative-husband!" moment for me!
• I know Noel can draw/paint but I never expected him to be crafty and creative.  At first he did not know how to make a bow but after teaching him how, he was able to make prettier and nicer looking bows than I did! (he makes them fast too!)

Here's hubby crafting one of his masterpieces. :) 

• Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars.  True.  While I try to make every piece of stationery as neat as possible by removing the little strands of the plastic glue left from the crystals and trimmings,  I don't understand why my husband can't see all of 'em!  He actually volunteered to do, but I ended up (re)doing everything!

His working station

My working station

• I'm sure he would agree that differences can easily be settled.  "I know better that you do" or "I'm sure this will work, just trust me" is moot.  Most of the time, couples should sit down, talk and meet at a point where they can both be happy.  In our case, compromising has been so important and I can say that it has led us to making the right (and best) decisions for our relationship.